Finding Answers With Family

Finding Answers With Family

Children And Funeral Services: Common Parental Concerns With Reliable Advice

by Vera Black

A loved one passes away, and the majority of people can anticipate that a funeral service will be held as a final goodbye in memory of the individual. While most adults feel attending a funeral service is important when they lose someone they know, it can bring about a few concerns if you have children that also knew the deceased.

Children deal with death on a different level, and some lack the understanding of what a funeral is or don't recognize the gravity of the situation. Nevertheless, it is important for a young person to get the opportunity to see closure and say goodbye. How do you handle this situation as a parent or caregiver? Here are a few things to keep in mind. 

Age is an important factor to consider when deciding if a child should go. 

Naturally, the age of the child has a lot of bearing on how they will react to going to a funeral, seeing the deceased, and seeing people upset. Toddlers and younger children can have a harder time with these things. Infants can be fine at a funeral, but you also do not want to disrupt the service if you have a fussy infant throughout the event. 

Invite the child but don't force them to go to the funeral service. 

For children who are old enough to understand what a funeral service is, it can be best to invite them to the funeral but give them the open option to opt-out of going. Never force a child to go if they don't want to; it can be a rather traumatizing thing. On the same note, never shame a child for not wanting to go and don't just assume they shouldn't be there and neglect an invitation. 

Take the time to explain what a funeral is and what happens at the event. 

For a child who has never heard of a funeral, they can be a bit confused about the whole ordeal. Seeing you making preparations, getting dressed up, etc. can lead the child to believe they are going somewhere they will have a good time. Unfortunately, without parental guidance, this can lead younger children to be extremely taken aback when they get to a somber event where a lot of people appear to be upset. Take the time to talk to the child about what takes place at a funeral, why people may be crying, and who may be present. 


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Finding Answers With Family

I have always been one of those people who loves making things right with family members, and a few months ago I found a tool that really helped me to make things right. We were able to find a counselor who really understood what it meant to help people heal, and it was absolutely invigorating to get started with therapy. She was incredibly kind, thoughtful, and generous with her time, and she worked hard to make things right with my family. I wanted to make this blog to help other people to know how to help relationships and families to heal.